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I recently started dating a new girl and can’t get hard whenever we want to have sex. I’ve always watched porn on and off and used nicotine throughout other relationships and have never had a problem with sex. Lately I’ve been very stressed.

Posted October 7, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. To get an erection, lots of things need to work together: Good blood flow to your penis Good nerve signaling to your penis  Normal hormone balance … read more

I’ve been questioning my sexuality for years and really think I’m asexual. I don’t feel safe coming out and feel like I can’t tell my doctor or even my family right now. If I tell my therapist, will they be understanding, and will it be confidential?

Posted October 5, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. We know that a person’s sexual attraction can range from being asexual, attracted to females, attracted to males, or a combination of females and males. This … read more

When I watch needle injections on Instagram, YouTube, or TikTok I get an autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR). This causes me to hurt myself sometimes with pens and tacks. Is it sterile? Should I stop?

Posted September 30, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thank you for your question. ASMR is an autonomous sensory meridian response that leads to a tingling sensation in the crown of the head, caused by a range of audio-visual triggers, such … read more

Remote learning is making me incredibly stressed, sad, miserable, furious, bipolar, and depressed. Sometimes even suicidal. How should I cope?

Posted September 28, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thank you so much for your question. Remote learning can be a challenge, and there is a lot going on right now that can make it feel hard to cope … read more

I’m gay and use a condom every time I have anal sex. However, I love giving and receiving oral sex (and swallowing). Can I catch HIV from oral sex? Wearing a condom in oral sex makes no sense. Is there some way to protect myself and partner from STIs?

Posted September 24, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. Congrats on wanting to make sure you have safer sex. As you know there is a risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) with any type of … read more

I have been fat since childhood. I think I might have an eating disorder. I feel guilty after eating my meal, and then weigh myself like 100 times in an hour. I want to lose about 10 kg. What is your advice?

Posted September 17, 2020 under Ask Us.

It sounds like you could benefit from meeting with a qualified mental health provider to discuss the feelings of guilt you have around eating as well as working to improve … read more

I’ve been exercising a lot recently doing strength training. Recently my shoulder has been feeling sore and tight but I don’t have any sharp pain. I didn’t tear anything, right?

Posted September 15, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. Strength training has a lot of health benefits. It is important to make sure you are using proper technique, gradually increasing the intensity, and taking rest … read more

I’m 14 and all my friends’ penises have grown, even those 1-2 years younger than me (as teenagers the conversation often drifts there). My testicles haven’t grown yet, and my penis is still skinny. Is there hope or do I need to accept my size? Help.

Posted September 10, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. Many people wonder about whether their penis and testicles are growing normally. During puberty those who are sex-assigned at birth males will notice their testicles (or … read more

I was told I needed to get clearance from a pediatric cardiologist, before I start cross country, due to my fast heart rate. My appointment is next week and I am a little nervous. What should I expect? Will anything hurt?

Posted September 2, 2020 under Ask Us.

This is a great question! It’s smart that you are having your fast heart rate checked out by a pediatric cardiologist (a doctor who specializes on hearts in children and … read more

I just turned 17 a month ago, I have shown all signs of puberty except penis growth and facial hair, should I see an endocrinologist. I am very worried that I will be stuck like this. It is very depressing.

Posted September 1, 2020 under Ask Us.

Thanks for your question. During puberty those who are sex-assigned at birth males will notice their testicles (or testes) becoming bigger, pubic hair development, and penile growth (length and width). … read more